Will you dare to dare in #2014

Will you dare to dare in #2014

It’s a BOLD question. I know.

This morning I got really inspired and had a bit of a ‘light bulb’moment.

I got back from a long walk and opened up a new book that I ordered as a Christmas present to myself.

It’s the 8th of January. A little late to be receiving Christmas presents. Ok!

The book by the way is Go For No recommended to me by a friend.

It’s all about facing your fears, not being afraid of rejection etc. The thing that “got me” was …

What would your older self be saying to you, your younger self?

IF you could hop into the future and look back at all the lessons you are learning. What would you say to your younger self?

If you knew what you knew now, what would you say to your teenage/ in your 40’s self…

What are you saying to your kids? What are you teaching them? Or what do you want them to have learned from you. When they look back at all the lessons you have taught them? What will they be thanking you for? Even when you are not here to hear the gratitude in their voices/actions?

I am grateful to my parents for teaching me
• that there is a really big world out there
• to be adventurous
• to be kind, as much as possible
• a whole bunch of other stuff. Not. All good

They weren’t perfect. But, I know this. They always did their best.

Even in the face of adversity.

That’s what really counts.

So, what legacy will YOU leave? How would you like your older self to be looking back going over old memories sitting with the grandchildren.

The time to make a change (IF that’s what you want) is usually now.

Do not be too timid and squeamish in your actions. All life is an experiment! – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Care to share or comment …


The Law of Attraction

“What goes around comes around.”

Does that mean anything to you?

You reap what you sow.

We are all creations of our own mind.

What strikes me though is that sometimes others’ perceptions of ‘us’ are often quite different to how ‘we’ view ‘us.’

So if we are all products of our own imagination and we are not happy with our perceived perception. Surely, it’s time to change one’s mindset.

How do you do that?

It could be
• through meditation
• life coaching
• walk in nature
• acupuncture – thought I’d better squeeze that one in there. Ha!
• hypnotherapy
• or something else

I love synchronicity. That really works for me. The beauty… is knowing when something synchronist is happening. If something like that happens – appreciate it. If you didn’t at the time – then go back ( in your mind ) and appreciate it anyway.

I have written about this before in my piece for Entrepreneur Soul.

Truthfully, for lots of reasons it’s been a tough Winter. Imagine my surprise, when my partner gets cold called & actually allows this guy to come show her, his product. Hmmmmm, I thought.

But, fortunately ” I zipped it!”

Say nothing! Often the best course of action!

And how glad am I that I did.

Synchronicity always amazes me.

The timing of this guy calling couldn’t have been more perfect. I appreciate him for that. And her for being creative and open to receiving in that way. It’s enabling us to embark on a venture and hopefully, some adventure.

Importantly, it gives us the opportunity to continue on the path of self development.

Happy Easter kids.

Or as someone nicely reminded me earlier – each day is an opportunity for celebration. Can you appreciate that?

The Key to Happiness

I was interviewed a while ago by Judith Morgan for Entrepreneur Soul. For those that missed it…

In 2005 I qualified as an acupuncturist, believing I had finally found my true vocation in life. I was excited to begin my practice and had already decided to specialise in gynaecology and fertility/infertility. I was in the process of finishing my last year of herbal medicine to enable me to work more effectively with patients.

However, I was still looking for more. I had explored different avenues of personal development, meditation and chanting in a bid to achieve spiritual fulfilment. In one-way or another, nothing had quite hit the mark.

During my last year of study I met up with an old friend. We discussed going into business with each other. She had plans to open a clinic in Canary Wharf. At the time, I wasn’t ready to take on such a commitment. However, she asked me if I would like to start working there as soon as I had qualified. We had an agreement that I would.

I continued with my studies and didn’t see the friend for a while. After about a year I saw her again and was totally blown away, she looked so different. She invited me to a preview of a self-improvement seminar she had been doing called Self Actualisation. I was curious as I noticed how much it had positively impacted her.

I went to the preview and was very curious to participate in the weekend. I had to wait about 6 weeks until I was able to do it. I had a sense that it would be life-changing. I felt as if I wanted to make major changes in my life and I just couldn’t see how to do it. On the lead up to the week-end, I felt as if I was living two parallel lives; my old life and my new life were running along side each other. I could see my new life I just couldn’t work out how to get to it.

I did the weekend seminar of self actualization .

It was completely transformational. It is very difficult to say what happens in the weekend. The crux of it for me is that up until then I had only focussed on what I didn’t want. It became so much more powerful to focus on what I actually wanted. In this way, my life became more intentional and meaningful.

Eleven months later, I was pregnant with my first child. I had always known that I wanted a baby. It was somewhere out there in the ethers. My life previously had been spent thinking “One day I will….” As I said I became much more intentional and I realised if I wanted something that much I need to make it happen. I had to take action.

I actually decided 3 weeks before I got pregnant to explore the possibilities. I wrote a list of 20 ways I could make it happen. One of the ways is how I got pregnant. I specialise around fertility so I had a lot of knowledge in that field. I am an expert but to be able to put all of that into practice and intentionally get what I wanted was amazing.

When I did my first seminar of Self Actualisation, truthfully I only had £1k in savings. My investment in the weekend was £700. If I ever talk to friends/ clients about this seminar, people often get caught on the price.

TIME and MONEY, are the main considerations for most people.

I can only say that I have never looked back after doing that seminar. I know that I have got more than I ever bargained for. 6 years after taking that seminar, one daughter later, 6 properties in the Caribbean and an ever-increasing UK portfolio, I think I can safely say that I got my money’s worth. I know that my partner and my daughter came out of doing that work. I know that I could never put a price on either of their heads.

I became more intentional, actually physically going after what I wanted, continuing to be persistent in what I want and also being COMPLETELY RUTHLESS around that and my own personal happiness. To be ruthless doesn’t mean I have to step on other people’s dreams. For me it means, being absolutely clear about what I want and going after it with a WHATEVER IT TAKES attitude/ philosophy. I had a good life before, but it was mediochre. The life that we lead now is pretty exceptional, so much so that I forget how lucky we are. Most days I forget about the journey we have taken to get us to this point alone. We always aspire to more. The trick or the key to happiness for me is learning to appreciate what we already have.

Are you a leader or a follower?

I was interviewed by Judith Morgan from Entrepreneur Soul recently. It was an interesting experience for lots of reasons. In setting up the interview via email correspondence Judith and I had a bit of a mix-up in that I expected that she would send me the questions.

I waited. In that can you hurry up and send me the questions kind of a way. For those that know Judith, you’ll appreciate that she usually doesn’t take long to reply to you.

Then the mix-up became apparent. What you mean I get to choose the questions? Very good.

How we laughed.

It was quite a turn around in my thinking though. Recently, I have been reading Seth Godin’s book ‘Tribes’- We need you to lead us which essentially talks about becoming a leader in your field, an expert and innovation.

The sign of a true leader, for me is somebody that isn’t afraid to set themselves apart from the crowd – to be different.

More than that, someone who actually recognizes their difference and then here’s the nugget, the person that actually celebrates their difference.

We are all unique. Some people feel more comfortable following the crowd.

That’s ok.

Godin says we all have the power to start a movement. I guess you have to have something important to say, this can translate into an important product that people want to buy but not necessarily.

The innovators amongst us recognise what the market wants, create it and give the people what they want. Godin comments that a crowd of people actually want a leader.

Increasingly we have more power and connection through the use of the internet and ( dare I say it ) social networking. Love it or not – it can be an incredibly powerful tool.

For those that haven’t had the chance to read it elsewhere, you can read the interview by following this link

If you were going to lead a movement… What would it be? Do you agree with Seth Godin that people want a leader? Are you a leader or a follower? Welcome your comments on this one.

One of my favourite leaders at the moment…..