A is for addiction ..

A is for addiction.

What is it that keeps us doing it. Whatever that is for you. Cravings. Giving in to that feeling. A sense of ugency as if you’re life won’t be complete without doing it.

Where does that feeling come from? It all comes from thought. Which even produces a physiological response in the body.

What if all that thought around that habit just fell away. Am I making it sound too easy?

It can be easy, as I discovered this year. My thinking around smoking just fell away. So much so that when I started AGAIN I thought the habit would fall away easily again.

Wrong.

Not so easy this time.

Once your on the ‘train of thought’ .. Actually picture an old steam puffing along. One puff & you are on the train, which needs more puffs & plumes of smoke to keep it going.

What if you just didn’t step on the train today. Just today.

A friend surprised me the other week. She said “it’s running, or the fags.”

That’s her treat to herself. Time alone. Something just for you.

We can be addicted to anything sex, money, food, chocolate, drugs …

What is it for you? You don’t have to be addicted to something by the way.

If you want to talk further about issues raised .. Call Amanda 07763 566710 or email me amandathomas70@btinternet.com

Amanda

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Are you thriving or just surviving?

 

Are you thriving?

It’s a great word isn’t it. Thrive – to flourish, grow vigoursly.  As a Mum pointed out this week after I posted this on Social Networking site Face Book.

“Start telling a better feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting  magical, fanciful story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life starts to transform before your very eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the Power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those laws.”

-Abraham

What does it take for you to thrive? I don’t just mean ‘doing ok’ but really really singing from the rooftops (inside so you know not that you really have to be up there singing.)

Some people call it a ‘state of ok-ness.’ But I would argue that most people want to feel more than just ok. At best, to be ok when the non-ok ness comes around.

To really thrive is going to mean different things to different people. We are unique after all!

For me to really thrive, I found out this week that getting a new pair of hearing aids would at least help me to thrive. No more struggling to hear the most unimportant of things, but you didn’t really know if they were or not, hanging on every word, desperately trying to catch all the things that little people say whilst distracted & not really looking at you And speaking in an immature pitch that you can’t really catch at the best of the times anyway… The list goes on.

It’s exhausting. Upsetting. Alienating. Lonely even at times. We all have those moments. I know we do. We all do. Does it help, knowing that we all think those thoughts and feel those thoughts. No not really.

So, ‘reaching for the better feeling’ actually worked for me this week. I made a conscious intentional effort (i.e deliberate alignment with) to really reach for the better feeling. It worked.

And today is another day.

Reach for the ‘better feeling.’ Let’s try that again.

What do you do that really helps to give you that feeling that you’re thriving?

It could be something as simple as

  • going for a run or swim
  • walking/ cycling to school
  • going for a drink with a friend
  • making plans for the future

The only person that knows what’s good for you is you.

Keep reaching.

 

Hear hear

Did you ever have an experience that took you to the most unusual of places?

I went on a rollercoaster ride once in Disneyland Paris. It happened so quickly. I screamed with pure fear and sheer delight all rolled into one. I didn’t have time to shout. ” GET ME OFF”

Three years ago I lost my hearing. Just like that. One minute it was there; the next it was gone.

“Shit! Where did it go?”

The power of the mind to throw you in all kinds of directions when something unexpected happens.

It can go to –

Delight

FEAR – yes **** Everything And Run

Wonder -as in the kind of wonder where you wonder whether you are in a dream and will wake up at some point. You know the one where you wake up and go PHEW! Thank God, I was just dreaming.

Well this one wasn’t like that. I would wake up in the morning, scrabbling for my hearing aids wishing I could just go back to sleep.

To say it has been an experience, is an understatement.

At the end of last year, I was offered the opportunity to attend a deafness rehabilitation programme. Now there is something I never thought I would saying this lifetime.

I met an incredible bunch of people.

I came away feeling very inspired and with a sense of gratitude. It was supportive. The trainers were all brilliant. It was actually the first time I had ever met other people in a similar situation i.e adults who have become deafened in adult life.

It was interesting to watch the hearing people’s awareness being raised throughout the week. On the first night my partner actually commented that she felt like an outsider. And just to have the opportunity to have fun with other people in a similar situation.

It’s important to be able to relate to others. To have a sense of belonging. Regardless of who you are, what you want or your aspirations in life. Where do you feel like you belong?

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Is your child cranky?

A Mum approached me in the school playground this morning.

“I wonder if you could help.”

Uh oh! Its 2 minutes to 9. I am rushing my daughter in for her last day. She has been off all week with a nasty stomach bug.

Fortunately, my partner is also there this morning for the weekly school session on behaviour. As luck had it, I unusually had some ‘Hummingbird Children’s Clinic’ leaflets on me. The rest of my family rushed off leaving me to chat with the Mum after handing her a leaflet.

Her eyes quickly ran down the list of things that the treatment I offer can assist with. ” Yep, yep, yep he’s got that.” She affirmatively commented with a tad of relief.

I looked into the push chair and attempted to joke with a grumpy tear-stained face. Doh! Somebody is ticking all the boxes for what the Japanese refer to as kanmushisho. To the layperson, that just means the irritable child. This can manifest in many ways such as insomnia, crying for no apparent reason, clingyness, night terrors, bad mood, cries a lot, biting people, abdominal bloating due to over-eating, temporary fever, vomiting milk, diarrhea, runny nose, stuffy nose. OK the list is pretty endless and I could have on.

I’m sure as a parent that your child will have fallen into one of these categories at one time or another.

When they do go through one of these phases it can be hard to see an end to it. As the Mum of the toddler this morning said, she finds it hard because her son is clingy, it is difficult to get anything done, he won’t go to her partner when he is there, she also feels like she is neglecting her other older son.

It’s tricky sometimes. And at the risk of sounded clichéd, it can seem like catch 22.

This can arise through a general over-sensitivity within the child to various stimuli (environmental, nutritional, emotional etc.).

This could be something as simple as :

– my child doesn’t like loud noises

– they hate the sound of running water

– they want to turn the lights off or down

– they get really upset when anyone shouts

– they have a reaction to dairy products

In the Japanese view, behavioural issues are a manifestation of kanmushisho.

These days we talk about the “terrible twos,” there is almost an expectation that the behaviour of the child will change at age 2.

In the older, pre-school age child, the symptoms manifest differently. It can include the child whom is easily distracted or who finds it difficult to concentrate.

More extreme cases are where we see diagnoses of attention deficit disorder (ADD) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

In many cases even a light treatment sees positive effects. This is because, in a baby or young child their energy lies on the surface. In Chinese Medicine we attribute this receptivity to children as they are more in the “yang” phase of their life.

Also because the child’s energy is more on the surface, it is easier to access.

It is widely known that the stimulation of specific acupuncture points in the body causes the nervous system to produce endorphins (the feel good factor) and other natural chemicals and hormones. This process supports a healthy immune system.

Shonishin works in a similar way, it can help children to fight off infection (and lurking pathogens i.e. nasties) by building their immune system. The imprint of illnesses that remain dormant within the system can disrupt the autoimmune system in later life.

Shonishin can be used alone or alongside more conventional medical treatment. Of course, it is always advisable to consult with you GP if you have any concerns about your child’s overall health. It can also help to know that there are alternative ways of approaching health issues you may be dealing with.

Shonishin is safe and there are no negative side effects. By strengthening a child’s energy (Qi) it can assist in restoring their wellbeing towards being in good health. Along with a good diet and sometimes some lifestyle changes, I believe it can really assist our young people towards being healthier adults.

If you have any queries about your child’s health or questions about this article, feel free to email me on info@acupunctureplace.co.uk